Life Begins at the Edge of Your Comfort Zone

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走出舒适区开始真正的生活

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yeah

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it's a cold and foggy winter morning and
i'm standing on the world's tallest

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spongy platform the platform standing on
is so tiny that I have to stand on my

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toes and balance myself against the wind

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the operator ties one end of the bungee
cord to mine coal and throws a slack in

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the air

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I can feel the weight of the rope I'm
ankles slowly dragging me down

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I look down all the buildings and roads
are buried in heavy fog

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there is only one voice in my head I
can't do this

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so I turn around and tell them that I
want to quit

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and then I see a huge quote printed on
the glass window right next to me

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life begins at the edge of your comfort
zone

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I don't know why but this short yet
powerful sentence gives me the final

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push and before I realize it

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I walk straight back to the platform and
jump off the world's highest bungee

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platform

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yeah

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yeah

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during the five seconds of free fall

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I remember thinking to myself it's not
as scary as it looks

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and that thought lot to a whole new
world

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every time i hear the voice of fear in
my head I can leave this job because i'm

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not going to find anything better

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I'm scared of entering a new
relationship because I don't want to be

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heard again and even a minute ago before
I walk onto the stage

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the voice was repeating my head every
time I hear that voice

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I take a deep breath and tell myself
it's never as scary as it looks

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let me take you back to the summer of
two thousand seven a remote village in

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Cambodia a small room in a domestic
violence victim center

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it's my first day of work I walked into
the room and was introduced to an 80

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year old girl her name was chia-chia was
so emotionally physically abuse that she

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was trembling all the time and she
couldn't even look at me in the ice and

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on her face I saw fear anxiety and shame
and that day she refused to take our

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help and went back to her husband and in
the course of next few months she would

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do that again and again only come back
with more bruises and cuts

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she knew that she should leave her
husband but she was scared too because

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she had been married to her him since 14
dependent on him for survival and do not

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know that she could live a live on her
arm to help cheer and thousands of other

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girls like cheer

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I started as vocational skill training
program after three months of training

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magic happens

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Xie Regan confidence in dignity step out
of the fear failure found a new job in

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local hotel and separated with her
husband she started a new chapter of

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life at the edge of her comfort zone

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sheer might be an extreme example but i
can see myself in her and maybe you can

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too

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what is it that you're not doing because
of fear of failure

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finding a new job starting a new company
or asking someone out for a date for me

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it was the fear of public speaking

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whatever it is i encourage you to try it
because as chief found and i found and i

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think you will find - it's never as
scary as it looks

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and you're stronger and more capable
than you thought

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the second story is about embracing
uncertainty my friend John lives an

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extremely comfortable live in Hong Kong

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he works from nine to five and receives
a very good pay

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but he's dispassionate about these job
and life and he's constantly complaining

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he has lived his whole life with
certainty that the fear of losing what

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he had is stopping him from pursuing his
passion and so one morning I got a call

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from him

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hi evening I went to a positive
psychology class last quarter got so

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inspired

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I quit my job today and moving to
Australia you would

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what are you going to do with your life
i asked he said this is the first time

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in life that I don't have a plan and if
you every bit as scared as I am excited

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the next time I saw him was six months
later he just got back from Australia a

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licensed hypnotherapist from a trade 02
a hypnotherapist

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I was shocked when I saw him again his
face was pink ice glittering his whole

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body was just glowing

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he is living his dream right now
traveling around the world giving

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workshops and therapy sessions for
thousands of people to find happiness in

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life and that's with cheer I could see
myself in job and maybe you can too

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we're all scared of uncertainty giving
up all you have to pursue a dream that

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may or may not work out

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loving someone with her heart without
guarantee it's incredibly hard but as

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John found and i found and i think you
will find - it's never as scary as it

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looks

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and then leads to more possibilities

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and happiness in life the last story is
about vulnerability and the last story

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is about me my love for my parents is
the strongest emotion my life but the

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Asian culture

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love is seldom expressed in words it
makes me feel extremely uncomfortable to

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tell them i love you or to even share my
feelings with them

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our daily conversation is a combination
of what I had for lunch and what they

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had for dinner

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the word courage came from latin root
curve which means heart and the original

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meaning of courage is to tell the story
of who you are with your whole heart

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I don't know why I have the courage to
stand here today and share my story with

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you but I don't have the courage to tell
my parents I love you

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they raised me with love so much love

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they made me believe I'm worthy of love
not because of what I achieve but

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because of who I am yet

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I so desperately want to be this perfect
child for them and share my happiness

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and achievements and withhold my
struggles and failures and this

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I'm proud of my achievements I didn't
know that this created a huge emotional

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gap between us and we no longer share
the joy and pain of each other's life

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journey I've been experiencing a tough
time recently

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a heartbroken ending of three year
relationship

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many questions about friendship and deep
insecurity about future a couple of

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weeks ago I came back from the exhaust
recording should from New York the

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moment I walked in my room in darkness

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I experienced an emotional breakdown

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I called my mom and burst into tears

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the moment I heard her voice and the
foot the next hour and first time in my

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life I shared my struggles with her

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and even though she hasn't been with me
in this journey for so long she

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understands exactly what I've been going
through the feeling of reconnection

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after so many years is like magic

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in the end i told her i love you and she
said I love you too

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it's the first time remember either of
us at that

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I didn't expect what felt so
uncomfortable previously came so natural

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and peacefully in the end I see life as
a constant fight against your comfort

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zone

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you push it it pushes back

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what's the fear that's holding you back

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what are you not saying or doing because
it's outside your comfort zone

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I challenge you to find that comfort
zone today

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bravely step out of it and as you get
comfortable again push it even further

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don't try to get rid of fear except that
you will be afraid and then go to it

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anyway

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as the words that high on the bungee
platform life begins at the edge of your

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comfort zone

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thank you

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yeah

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