Bel Pesce: 5 ways to kill your dreams
五种扼杀梦想的方法

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燕山大学 刘立军 宋葳 编写

◆INTRODUCTION

All of us want to invent that game-changing product, launch that successful company, write that best-selling book. And yet so few of us actually do it. TED Fellow and Brazilian entrepreneur Bel Pesce breaks down five easy-to-believe myths that ensure your dream projects will never come to fruition.

◆BEFORE VIEWING

TASK 1: VOCABULARY PREVIEW

1.dedicate v. dedicate yourself/sth. to sth./to doing sth. to give a lot of your time and effort to a particular activity or purpose because you think it is important 把…奉献给。例如：
○She dedicates herself to her work. 她献身于自己的工作。
○He dedicated his life to helping the poor. 他毕生致力于帮助穷人。

2. dent n. a hollow place in a hard surface, usually caused by sth. hitting it 凹痕；凹坑；凹部。例如：a large dent in the car door车门上一大块凹陷

3. overlap n. overlap (between sth. and sth.) a shared area of interest, knowledge, responsibility, etc. （范围方面的）重叠部分。例如：There is (a) considerable overlap between the two subjects. 两门科目之间有相当多的共通之处。

4. investigate v. to carefully examine the facts of a situation, an event, a crime, etc. to find out the truth about it or how it happened 调查，侦查（某事）

○The FBI has been called in to investigate. 联邦调查局奉命进行调查。

○Police are investigating possible links between the murders. 警察正在调查这些谋杀案之间是否存在关联。

5. humble adj. having a low rank or social position （级别或地位）低下的，卑微的。例如：
○a man of humble birth/origins出身低微的人
○a humble occupation卑下职业
○the daughter of a humble shopkeeper一位小店主的女儿

6. bump v. bump against/into sb./sth. to hit sb./sth. by accident （无意地）碰，撞。例如：
○In the dark I bumped into a chair. 我在黑暗中撞上了一把椅子。
○The car bumped against the kerb. 汽车撞上了路缘。

7. sequel n. a book, film/movie, play, etc. that continues the story of an earlier one （书、电影、戏剧等的）续篇，续集。例如：a sequel to the hit movie ‘Sister Act ’ 轰动一时的影片《修女也疯狂》的续集

8. sensation n. very great surprise, excitement, or interest among a lot of people; the person or the thing that causes this surprise 轰动；哗然；引起轰动的人（或事物）。例如：
○News of his arrest caused a sensation . 他被捕的消息引起了轰动。
○The band became a sensation overnight. 一夜之间，这支乐队名声大振。

9. trip n. an act of falling or nearly falling down, because you hit your foot against sth. 绊；绊倒

TASK 2: TOPIC PREVIEW
Work in pairs and discuss the following question.

List something which might kill your dreams.

◆VIEWING

TASK 3:
Read the table. Then watch the video and fill in the blanks with the information you hear.

Topic		5 ways to kill your dreams
Introduction		I dedicated the past two years to understanding how people achieve their dreams. When we think about the dreams we have, and the dent we want to leave in the universe, it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is between the dreams that we have, and projects that never happen. So I'm here to talk to you today about _________________________________________________.
Body	Tip 1	Believe in _________________________________.
	Example	l The tech guy l I myself
	Conclusion 1	Your overnight success story is always a result of ___________________________________ through that moment.
	Tip 2	Believe ________________________ has the answers for you.
	Example	l Family l Friends l Business partners
	Conclusion 2	You need to ____________________________ yourself. No one else has the perfect answers for your life.
	Tip 3	Decide to settle when ________________ is guaranteed.
	Example	l I launched my first book
	Conclusion 3	There's no time to ___________________________.
	Tip 4	Believe the _______________________ is someone else's.
	Example	l I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest. l I created this great product, but the market is so bad, the sales didn't go well. l I can't find good talent; my team is so below expectations.
	Conclusion 4	You need to ______________________________________. And no one achieved their goals alone. But if you didn't make them happen, it's your fault and no one else's. ________________ your dreams.
	Tip 5	Believe that the only things that matter are ________________________________________.
	Example	l An ad about a lot of friends going up a mountain
	Conclusion 5	But achieving a dream is _____________________, and your life is not. The only way to really achieve all of your dreams is to ______________________________. That's the best way.
Conclusion		Believe in overnight success, believe someone else has the answers for you, believe that __________________________, you should settle down, believe the fault is someone else's, and believe that only the goals themselves matter. Believe me, you do that, and you will ____________________________________.

◆AFTER VIEWING

TASK 4:
Work in group and discuss the following question.

What did you learn from this speech?

SUGGESTED ANSWERS

◆BEFORE VIEWING

TASK 2

There are many things which might kill our dreams, for example

○Never take a risk.
○Never make a mistake.
○Never accept help.
○Never adapt.
…

◆VIEWING

TASK 3
1. five ways how not to follow your dreams
2. overnight success
3. everything you've done in your life
4. someone else
5. make those decisions
6. growth
7. settle down
8. fault
9. get your dreams and make them happen
10. Be responsible for
11. the dreams themselves
12. a momentary sensation
13. fully enjoy every step of your journey
14. when growth is guaranteed
15. destroy your dreams

◆AFTER VIEWING

TASK 4

Dreams lead to succeed. If someone has no dream, his or her life life would be meaningless. In real life, most people began to have dreams since childhood. But the employment of improper way usually leads dream to be shattered ultimately. In this video, Bel Pesce lists five common ways that lead to dream shattered.

First, believe in overnight success. The realization of ambitions needs to pay hard work and every successful man has suffered tremendous hardships.

Second, believe someone else has the answers for you. No one else has the perfect answers for our own life. We must learn to correct our judgment, rather than to listen to someone else's guidance.

Third, decide to settle when growth is guaranteed. A lot of things in our life will be better as long as we try, but often we are complacent. We should have done better, but failed to do so.

Fourth, believe the fault is someone else's. Many times, when we encountered problems or setbacks, we always complain about the others. But in one group, the occurrence of errors should be attributed to each person's responsibility.

Fifth, life is never about the goals themselves. Many people give up enjoying the scenery in the way to get the target. In fact, the process of realizing one’s dream has the same educational value. Target is temporary, while the process is long.

So, there are five ways to keep your dream get succeed: do not believe in overnight success, do not believe someone else has the answers for you, do not believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down, do not believe the fault is someone else's, and do not believe that only the goals themselves matter. If you follow the above advice, you will make your dreams come true.

ATTACHMENT:

Bel Pesce: 5 ways to kill your dreams

0:12
I dedicated the past two years to understanding how people achieve their dreams. When we think about the dreams we have, and the dent we want to leave in the universe, it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is between the dreams that we have, and projects that never happen.
0:28
(Laughter)
0:29
So I'm here to talk to you today about five ways how not to follow your dreams.
0:36
One: Believe in overnight success. You know the story, right? The tech guy built a mobile app and sold it very fast for a lot of money. You know, the story may seem real, but I bet it's incomplete. If you go investigate further, the guy has done 30 apps before and he has done a master's on the topic, a PhD. He has been working on the topic for 20 years.
1:02
This is really interesting. I myself have a story in Brazil that people think is an overnight success. I come from a humble family, and two weeks before the deadline to apply for MIT, I started the application process. And, voilà! I got in. People may think it's an overnight success, but that only worked because for the 17 years prior to that, I took life and education seriously. Your overnight success story is always a result of everything you've done in your life through that moment.
1:37
Two: Believe someone else has the answers for you. Constantly, people want to help out, right? All sorts of people: your family, your friends, your business partners, they all have opinions on which path you should take: "And let me tell you, go through this pipe." But whenever you go inside, there are other ways you have to pick as well. And you need to make those decisions yourself. No one else has the perfect answers for your life. And you need to keep picking those decisions, right? The pipes are infinite and you're going to bump your head, and it's a part of the process.
2:12
Three, and it's very subtle but very important: Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed. So when your life is going great, you have put together a great team, and you have growing revenue, and everything is set - time to settle. When I launched my first book, I worked really, really hard to distribute it everywhere in Brazil. With that, over three million people downloaded it, over 50,000 people bought physical copies. When I wrote a sequel, some impact was guaranteed. Even if I did little, sales would be OK. But OK is never OK. When you're growing towards a peak, you need to work harder than ever and find yourself another peak. Maybe if I did little, a couple hundred thousand people would read it, and that's great already. But if I work harder than ever, I can bring this number up to millions. That's why I decided, with my new book, to go to every single state of Brazil. And I can already see a higher peak. There's no time to settle down.
3:14
Fourth tip, and that's really important: Believe the fault is someone else's. I constantly see people saying, "Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest." "Oh, I created this great product, but the market is so bad, the sales didn't go well." Or, "I can't find good talent; my team is so below expectations." If you have dreams, it's your responsibility to make them happen. Yes, it may be hard to find talent. Yes, the market may be bad. But if no one invested in your idea, if no one bought your product, for sure, there is something there that is your fault.
3:54
(Laughter)
3:56
Definitely. You need to get your dreams and make them happen. And no one achieved their goals alone. But if you didn't make them happen, it's your fault and no one else's. Be responsible for your dreams.
4:12
And one last tip, and this one is really important as well: Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves. Once I saw an ad, and it was a lot of friends, they were going up a mountain, it was a very high mountain, and it was a lot of work. You could see that they were sweating and this was tough. And they were going up, and they finally made it to the peak. Of course, they decided to celebrate, right? I'm going to celebrate, so, "Yes! We made it, we're at the top!" Two seconds later, one looks at the other and says, "OK, let's go down."
4:46
(Laughter)
4:47
Life is never about the goals themselves. Life is about the journey. Yes, you should enjoy the goals themselves, but people think that you have dreams, and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams, it's a magical place where happiness will be all around. But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation, and your life is not. The only way to really achieve all of your dreams is to fully enjoy every step of your journey. That's the best way.
5:18
And your journey is simple - it's made of steps. Some steps will be right on. Sometimes you will trip. If it's right on, celebrate, because some people wait a lot to celebrate. And if you tripped, turn that into something to learn. If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate, you will for sure enjoy the journey.
5:41
So, five tips: Believe in overnight success, believe someone else has the answers for you, believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down, believe the fault is someone else's, and believe that only the goals themselves matter. Believe me, you do that, and you will destroy your dreams.
5:59
(Laughter)
6:00
(Applause)
6:01
Thank you.
6:03
Thanks.
6:04
(Applause)