1. Reflect

Take some time to reflect on your thoughts and feelings about your father. Ask yourself some reflective questions and then share your thoughts with him.

a) What is something you love about your father either now or when you were younger?

b) Has your father done something for you that touched your life in a positive way?

c) What do and your father like to do together? Or what is something you both like?

d) What are his qualities you are most proud of? Do you have any of them?

e) What is a favorite memory of your dad?

2. Forgive

No father is perfect so there may be some things you need to forgive him for, and maybe there are things he needs to forgive you for. Forgiveness brings healing, and healing brings closeness.

3. Share

Sharing memories and experiences can formulate fond feelings. Take some time to share memories with him by pulling out the photos and memorabilia. Make some new memories with your dad by experiencing simple things in life. Experience sunsets together or go on a picnic. Go for a quick road trip together. Spend an afternoon doing something you both like to do.

4. Connect

Connecting with your father is similar to sharing, but it goes a little deeper. It requires you to think about what you can do as a service to your father. Find out his love language and serve him through that love.

1.沉思

花一些时间来沉思一下你对你的父亲的想法和感觉。问你自己一些反思性的问题，然后与你的父亲分享你的想法。

1)你在现在或者当你还年幼的时候，你喜欢你父亲的哪些地方？

2）你的父亲曾经做过什么事情，对你的生活起了积极作用吗？

3）你父亲喜欢做什么，喜欢一起做什么呢？或者你们两个都喜欢做什么呢？

4）你父亲的什么品质，最让你感到骄傲？你有这些品质吗？

5）你对父亲最美好的回忆是什么呢？

2.原谅

父无完人，所以或许会有一些事情需要你去原谅他，或者会有一些事情需要他原谅你。原谅是一种很好的治愈方法，治愈会让你们更加亲密。

3.分享

分享回忆和经历可以构建喜欢的感觉。可以把照片和值得纪念的一些事物拿出来，花一些时间与你的父亲分享回忆。通过与你的父亲在生活中经历一些简单的事情，来制造一些新的回忆。可以一起体验日落或者一起野餐。可以一起体验一次快速的自驾游。花一下午来做一些你们两个都喜欢做的事情。

4.联系

联系你的父亲，与分享相似，但是却更深一层。这要求你想好自己为父亲可服务什么。找到他喜欢的语言，然后用这种爱来包围他。