“How to Win Friends and Influence People” is the title of possibly the most famous book of the twentieth century. It’s also one of the books most routinely ridiculed by people who think they are clever. Why on earth would an intelligent person need help with something as basic as that? Intellectuals have mocked down the decades. And in any case, good people don’t need to win friends: they already have them. And they don’t need to ‘influence’ them; they just need to say important things. But these were not the assumptions of a man far cleverer and more important than intellectual history has ever been prepared to allow.

Born in 1888 into a poor farming family in rural Missouri, Dale Carnegie left school in his teens. And rather than attend university, he spent his years selling bacon and soap to people living in isolated ranches. He then got involved in adult education and spent tens of thousands of evenings giving talks to small audiences in out-of-the-way towns. With over-prominent ears and a prosaic haircut, Dale Carnegie was almost the anti-type of what we imagine a great and centrally important writer might be like. In 1936, when he was in his late forties, he summed up his views on being nice in a book that was ridiculed by intellectuals then and now: “How to Win Friends and Influence people”.

The issues Carnegie addresses are utterly basic. We spend vast parts of our lives trying to build relationships, hoping to get others to appreciate who we are, to understand us and grasp what we have to offer them; and yet our efforts are, very often, far from successful. Carnegie pinpointed things we desperately need to know and get good at but which had been largely neglected by previous writers. 

What Carnegie suggests sounds entirely like common sense: smile; remember someone’s name; listen to them; think about what they want; don’t make your success come at the price of theirs; don’t tell others they are wrong; get to understand and appreciate why they think as they do - especially if it strikes you as misguided. And yet, these are precisely the things we generally forget to do. Carnegie recognised, with astonishing clarity, how naive-sounding the advice we need often really is. Our culture wants us to imagine that what we need to know are very complicated things: a university will make sure its science students understand the theory of relativity or that its humanities graduates are acquainted with Foucault’s views on 19th-century prisons. We’re quite good at abstruse things. And yet we trip up on issues that are diametrically opposite in character: that are simple, emotional and interpersonal. They involve not demonstrating how much we know, but rather showing how much we like other people. 

Knowledge of the truth is a tiny fraction of what it takes to make the truth effective in the world. What we need in spades is charm and an ability to persuade others that we are on their side.

It’s never enough to feel haughtily superior or, as unfortunately, pessimistically inferior - and simply wait for others to come to us. We have to master the art of winning people over to our side. And we’ll be persuaded to change our minds only by people that we like and who we feel love and understand us - that is, by people who’ve taken Dale Carnegie’s vital lessons to heart.

1. routinely adv. 常规地，惯常地

2. ridicule v. to make sb./sth. look silly by laughing at them or it in an unkind way 嘲笑；奚落；讥笑（同义词）make fun of

3. prosaic adj. ordinary and not showing any imagination 平庸的；没有诗意（或美感）的

4. utterly adv. 全然，完全地; 彻底地，绝对的; 十足地; 十分

5. abstruse adj. (formal, often disapproving) difficult to understand 难解的；深奥的。例如：an abstruse argument玄奥的论点

6. diametrically adv. completely different 完全（不同）；截然（相反）。例如：We hold diametrically opposed views. 我们的观点大相径庭。

7. haughtily adv. 傲慢地

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” is the title of possibly the most famous book of the twentieth century. It’s also one of the books most routinely ridiculed by people who think they are clever. Why on earth would an intelligent person need help with something as basic as that? (Q1) _________________ have mocked down the decades. And in any case, good people don’t need to win friends: they already have them. And they don’t need to ‘influence’ them; they just need to say important things. But these were not the (Q2) _________________ of a man far cleverer and more important than intellectual history has ever been prepared to allow.

Born in 1888 into a poor farming family in rural Missouri, Dale Carnegie left school in his teens. And rather than attend university, he spent his years selling (Q3) _____________to people living in isolated ranches. He then got involved in (Q4) _______________ and spent tens of thousands of evenings giving talks to small audiences in out-of-the-way towns. With over-prominent ears and a prosaic haircut, Dale Carnegie was almost the anti-type of what we imagine a great and centrally important writer might be like. In 1936, when he was in his late forties, he summed up his views on being nice in a book that was ridiculed by intellectuals then and now: “How to Win Friends and Influence People”.

The issues Carnegie addresses are utterly basic. We spend vast parts of our lives trying to (Q5) ________________________, hoping to get others to appreciate who we are, to understand us and grasp what we have to offer them; and yet our efforts are, very often, far from successful. Carnegie (Q6) _______________ things we desperately need to know and get good at but which had been largely neglected by previous writers. 

What Carnegie suggests sounds entirely like (Q7) ______________: smile; remember someone’s name; listen to them; think about what they want; don’t make your success come at the price of theirs; don’t tell others they are wrong; get to understand and appreciate why they think as they do - especially if it strikes you as misguided. And yet, these are precisely the things we generally forget to do. Carnegie recognised, with astonishing clarity, how naive-sounding the advice we need often really is. Our culture wants us to imagine that what we need to know are very (Q8) _______________ things: a university will make sure its science students understand the theory of relativity or that its humanities graduates are acquainted with Foucault’s views on 19th-century prisons. We’re quite good at abstruse things. And yet we trip up on issues that are diametrically opposite in character: that are simple, emotional and interpersonal. They involve not (Q9) ___________________ how much we know, but rather showing how much we like other people. 

Knowledge of the truth is a tiny fraction of what it takes to make the truth effective in the world. What we need in spades is charm and an ability to persuade others that we are on their side.

It’s never enough to feel haughtily superior or, as unfortunately, (Q10) ______________ inferior - and simply wait for others to come to us. We have to master the art of winning people over to our side. And we’ll be persuaded to change our minds only by people that we like and who we feel love and understand us - that is, by people who’ve taken Dale Carnegie’s vital lessons to heart.

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” is the title of possibly the most famous book of the twentieth century. It’s also one of the books most routinely ridiculed by people who think they are clever. Why on earth would an intelligent person need help with something as basic as that? (Q1) Intellectuals have mocked down the decades. And in any case, good people don’t need to win friends: they already have them. And they don’t need to ‘influence’ them; they just need to say important things. But these were not the (Q2) assumptions of a man far cleverer and more important than intellectual history has ever been prepared to allow.

Born in 1888 into a poor farming family in rural Missouri, Dale Carnegie left school in his teens. And rather than attend university, he spent his years selling (Q3) bacon and soap to people living in isolated ranches. He then got involved in (Q4) adult education and spent tens of thousands of evenings giving talks to small audiences in out-of-the-way towns. With over-prominent ears and a prosaic haircut, Dale Carnegie was almost the anti-type of what we imagine a great and centrally important writer might be like. In 1936, when he was in his late forties, he summed up his views on being nice in a book that was ridiculed by intellectuals then and now: “How to Win Friends and Influence People”.

The issues Carnegie addresses are utterly basic. We spend vast parts of our lives trying to (Q5) build relationships, hoping to get others to appreciate who we are, to understand us and grasp what we have to offer them; and yet our efforts are, very often, far from successful. Carnegie (Q6) pinpointed things we desperately need to know and get good at but which had been largely neglected by previous writers. 

What Carnegie suggests sounds entirely like (Q7) common sense: smile; remember someone’s name; listen to them; think about what they want; don’t make your success come at the price of theirs; don’t tell others they are wrong; get to understand and appreciate why they think as they do - especially if it strikes you as misguided. And yet, these are precisely the things we generally forget to do. Carnegie recognised, with astonishing clarity, how naive-sounding the advice we need often really is. Our culture wants us to imagine that what we need to know are very (Q8) complicated things: a university will make sure its science students understand the theory of relativity or that its humanities graduates are acquainted with Foucault’s views on 19th-century prisons. We’re quite good at abstruse things. And yet we trip up on issues that are diametrically opposite in character: that are simple, emotional and interpersonal. They involve not (Q9) demonstrating how much we know, but rather showing how much we like other people. 

Knowledge of the truth is a tiny fraction of what it takes to make the truth effective in the world. What we need in spades is charm and an ability to persuade others that we are on their side.

It’s never enough to feel haughtily superior or, as unfortunately, (Q10) pessimistically inferior - and simply wait for others to come to us. We have to master the art of winning people over to our side. And we’ll be persuaded to change our minds only by people that we like and who we feel love and understand us - that is, by people who’ve taken Dale Carnegie’s vital lessons to heart.